Getting over a breakup can be hard depending on how deeply you were invested in your significant other, who’s now turned out to be your ex.
Your significant other might have sent chills down your spine, or given you butterflies in the stomach. S/he might just have been the best thing that has ever happened to you. You loved them to the moon and back.
Little did you know that one day they’ll turn out to be somebody that you used to know. How sad!
Here are a few tips on how you can get over break-up when in college.
Experience the Hurt
Learn how to deal with it. You’ve got to face the truth that you and your better-half are no longer together. You’re definitely going to feel sad and disappointed but that’s just how you should feel.
It’s like going through any grieving process where you’re supposed to feel denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance.
You need a complete healing process so you can rise from the ashes like a phoenix!
Suppressing your emotions won’t do you any justice. Cry or hibernate, bury yourself in the sand if need be. Just feel the hurt, but maybe don’t shave your hair yet! Remember it’s not the end of the world.
Avoid Jumping Into Another Relationship Soon
Don’t accept a rebound relationship too soon. Before you know it, someone might promise you, or you may be the one promising another heaven on earth.
Remember, you may not have heaven to offer at that moment. You’re actually not even going through heaven right then.
Be careful not to be gullible to fall for another person immediately after you end a previous relationship. Jumping into the little fling(s) can affect the way you look at lovers.
Reach Out to a Friend/Family
You don’t have to deal with the breakup alone. Friends can help make the situation bearable. Call or text a close friend and share the sad news.
Your friend(s) should be mindful that that’s not the period they should ask why you were blind to the red flags. Instead, they should lend you a shoulder to cry and lean on. Assess your friendship circle and identify that one friend to tell.
Again, you can tell your family members about the breakup. This depends on how closely you interact on sharing matters of the heart. You’d probably even introduce your better half to them.
Your family should remind you that you’re loved, and give you the love and support you deserve during this time.
Feel Free to Block Them
One thing about good memories, they last. Of course, your significant other made you happy in many ways. You may go back in the memory lane to the first day you met, went for a date, and had a good time.
You’ll remember the good times you spend going to the movies, your favorite restaurant, and your first vacation together. Pure bliss!
All these might tempt you to text or call them just to make sure you’re not dreaming. If you won’t stop being in constant contact with your ex after the breakup, it might be difficult for you to forget and start healing.
Block them from anywhere they might reach you. It’s going to be an out of sight, out of mind situation.
Talking and choosing to remain friends with your ex is not wrong.
However, if you attend the same college as your ex-sweetheart, you can deliberately avoid going to places where you might run into them. Do this until you feel that you’re completely over them.
Go Out and Have Fun
Remember, you cannot cry forever. Since you may not have been used to riding alone, gather your friends and go to places of entertainment.
You should accept that the breakup has happened, only don’t allow it to engulf you.
If you are the type that can’t stay single for a while, you should go out and who knows, you might meet another special someone!
Again, having fun also includes finding a hobby to engage in. A hobby will distract your thoughts from your ex-sweetheart.
You won’t be thinking about them but about how you can finish drawing that piece of art.
Find the Diamond in the Rough
We may fail to see it but relationships take up a lot of our time. Now, imagine balancing schoolwork with relationships. Both need your time and attention.
You may argue that a good percentage of the time you spend in college is for experiences and little for learning.
One of the experiences is getting into romantic relationships. While pursuing your relationship, you may detach from being the person you are or are meant to be.
Now that the relationship has ended with the one you thought was the one, you’ll realize that you have enough time on your hands.
Use that time to discover your unique characteristics, skills, or hobbies. It’s also at this stage that you’ll know what to tolerate when you find a new partner.
Understand that relationships may not last forever. Family relationships may last a lifetime, but romantic relationships can end at any time.
Sometimes, if not all the time, even people die.
Moving on from your breakup should mark the start of a new experience. It’ll boost your self-esteem, self-worth, and self-confidence.
You’ll have learned how to be your own person. Use this time, to also focus on your studies such as improving your grades or generally understanding your course content.
While at it, don’t forget to treat yourself to nice food or buy yourself that nice outfit as you regain your independence.
Wrapping it Up
Ending romantic relationships in college is bad as it sounds. It may not only affect your social well-being but also your academic performance.
You need to understand that the breakup is a temporary experience. Surely, there are better things to experience while in college than letting a small break-up bring you down.
As always, there are better things on the way coming.